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Pussy Eating for Beginners – How to Eat a Girl Out

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For the longest time I didn’t enjoy eating pussy. Now, I can’t really understand why.

When I first started to do it, I soon got addicted to it.

Eating pussy is now one of my favorite things to do in bed. I can’t get enough of it.

In this article I’ll give you a couple of very simple pussy eating techniques.

There’s tons of ways to eat out a girl, but still, it’s always good to know some simple and effective moves.

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Why Should You Do It?

Let’s begin at the beginning. Why should you eat out your girl?

In my opinion there’s only one answer to this question: why shouldn’t you?

But that’s me – I love it. What about you? Do you love to eat out your girl?

My point is: if you don’t want to, or if you don’t like to eat pussy, then there’s no point doing it. Pussy eating is first and foremost for you – not for your partner.

Sure, it’s very likely that your partner will love your warm, wet tongue between her legs, but if you don’t do it – it’s probably no big deal.

Here is one thing you have to understand regarding pussy eating:

Eating pussy is not the equivalent of a blow job.

I personally can’t imagine being in a relationship with a woman who doesn’t want to, or doesn’t like to give me blow jobs. But for most women, pussy eating is not a necessity for a good sex life.

The reason for this has to do with the psychological aspect of your private parts. For us guys, our self-esteem is closely connected to our penis. (Which many women just don’t seem to understand…).

I’m sure you’ve noticed how great it feels being in a relationship with a woman who can’t get enough of your private parts. If a woman loves your penis – you feel loved.

A woman’s self-esteem however, is not connected to her private parts. No matter how much you love and give attention to your partner’s privates, she won’t feel any more love.

This is why pussy eating is different from blow jobs, and this is why you should eat your partner’s pussy only if you want to please yourself.  Pussy eating is your treat.

It’s not that your woman doesn’t want you to do it – she’ll love it if you do it right – but don’t do it to return any favors – because you won’t…

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Work Your Way Down

As with any other form of vaginal stimulation: you have to build arousal first.

Stimulating your partner’s vagina is a terrible strategy for turning her on. Take your time building arousal first – then you can eat her out.

In addition to arousal, there are also other factors at play. If this is the first time you go down on your girl, then you have to focus on building trust and intimacy.

Take your time kissing every part of your partner’s body – except her privates. Let her get use to you touching, kissing and licking less intimate parts of her body before you go down on her.

When she understands that you’re going to lick her pussy, then it’s likely she’ll stop you – especially if she’s new to sex. Even if you have built enough arousal, trust and intimacy, it’s still likely she’ll stop you, because she’s afraid she smells or tastes badly.

In these situations I usually just say casually, “It’s okay…”, then I continue.

Sometimes I also say more assertively, “Don’t stop me!” This sends her a clear signal that I know what I’m doing, and that it’s not up to her. If I want to lick her, then that’s my choice.

This may seem a little harsh, but remember that every woman wants to be licked. Who wouldn’t like a warm, wet tongue between their legs…?

And if she for some reason really wants you to stop, then just do something else. Don’t ask her why she doesn’t want you to lick her. She has her reasons, and that’s perfectly fine. Try again next time you have sex.

Side note: When a woman says ‘no’ in bed, it’s not your right to know her reasons for saying no. It’s okay to ask her, but never demand an answer, and never make a problem out of it. Just move on to something else.

Very often a woman will says no, because what you’re about to do is new to her. Give her some time to digest your suggestion, and she’ll be mentally prepared the next time you have sex.

If you make a problem out of it however, then I’ll promise you that she’ll say ‘no’ every time.

Back to pussy eating…

Pussy Eating for Beginners: First Contact

When you’re between your partner’s legs, it’s best to use some time kissing and licking her inner thighs before you slowly and gradually move on to her vagina.

But don’t go for the clit and the inner labia just yet. Take your time kissing, licking and sucking her outer labia.

By taking it slow and only focusing on her other labia, you’re building anticipation – you’re teasing her. This is something women just love – it drives them crazy.

Be very patient and let her wait for it. After a couple of minutes you can tease her even more by going back to her inner thighs.

It’s impossible to tease a woman too much. Be very, very patient and you’ll see how wet she gets…

Some women will at this point be so desperate that they’ll beg you to lick them. Some will even pull your head between their legs. If this happens – then go even slower…

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Positions

Since this is pussy eating for beginner, we’ll stick to the most common position – missionary position (girl on her back).

Have your girl lie on her back, and lift her legs up to her chest. Women usually don’t like to hold their legs spread open, so it’s best that you hold her legs back. Lay your hands under your partner’s knees and push them back.

Now, your girl’s in positions – lying on her back with her legs spread wide open. If you have taken your time teasing her, then she’s more than ready for you to eat her out.

There are two different ways you can eat out your girl. You can lick, and you can suck.

Let’s start with licking.

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Pussy Licking

Here‘s where most guys go wrong, and here’s where you’re going to give your girl something she’s never experienced before.

Even though I’m a big proponent of using porn as a learning tool, don’t try to copy pussy eating from porn – they’re doing it wrong! It’s not that these guys don’t know how to do it – they simple have to do it wrong because of the camera angle.

They even have a name for it – they call it “painting the fence”. “Painting the fence” is when you flick your tongue up and down or from side to side. It’s almost like giving the clit a beating with your tongue. Most women hate this, so don’t “paint the fence”.

This is what you do instead.

First, make sure your tongue is wet. Then stick it out of your mouth, and make it wide and loose. Your tongue should be wet, wide and loose. Remember that.

You’re going to use your whole tongue to lick your girl – not the tip of your tongue. Don’t try to write the alphabet with your tongue or something like that, since that will only make your tongue tense.

In fact, you’re not going to move your tongue at all.

Now, press your whole tongue against your partners pussy, and then slowly move your head up and down (like you’re licking an ice cream).

By moving your head instead of your tongue, you’ll make sure to keep your tongue relaxed.

Begin at the bottom of her pussy and move slowly all the way up over the clit. In this way you’re going to touch every part of your partners vagina for every stroke you make.

This will feel awesome for your girl…

In the beginning you may need to lubricate your tongue with more spit, but as you get started your partner will be so wet that you don’t need any more spit. Simply let your tongue “hang out”, and make sure it’s wet, wide and loose.

Go slow in the beginning – very slow. And keep a steady pace. This is important – no sudden moves.

When your (very lucky) girl gets used to your steady pace, she’ll start to relax and enjoy the moment.

Don’t press your head (and tongue) too hard against her pussy in the beginning. Have a light touch, but not too light, since that will just tickle her.

As an alternative to this up and down movement, you can move your head from side to side. Lay your tongue over the upper part of the vagina – over the clitoris – and then slowly start to shake your head.

This is a little more intense than the up and down movement, since you’re focusing more on the clit. (Remember to keep a steady pace.)

Your girl will just love this…

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Sucking the Clit

‘Sucking the clit’ is a completely different way of eating out your girl. This will probable also be something new and exciting for your partner.

Physiologically, your partner’s clit is similar to the head of your penis. I know it sounds a little weird and gross, but your partners’ clit is like a tiny penis.

Now, you’re going to give your girl a blow job …! (Yes, I know…)

Lay your mouth and lips over your partner’s clit. Very slowly suck the clit inside of your mouth. Hold it there for a couple of seconds, then let go of the suction. Do this several times.

Now you’re sucking your partner’s clit.

To do this right, imagine that you’re taking a big bite of a juicy apple.  As the juices start to drip down your chin, you’ll make this weird thing with your lips and tongue, and suck the juices back into your mouth.

If you’re not sure what I mean, then take an actual bit of an apple. You’ll know what I mean when you try it. This weird sucking motion is what you have to over your partner’s clit.

…and yes, you’ve guessed it: she’ll love it…

Note: Pay attention to your girl when you’re sucking her clit. If you do it too fast and too hard it may be painful.

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Keep the Communication Going

No matter what you do in bed, you have to communicate. Women don’t like sex without communication.

With your face buried between your partner’s thighs, communication can be challenging.

I like to grab hold of my partner’s hands while giving her oral sex. Holding hands is an effective way to keep in touch, and it will keep us connected.

Pussy Eating for Beginners: Going for the Big O

As you keep a slow and steady pace, you’ll soon notice that your partner’s breath is deepening. This is a clear sign that her arousal level is on the rise. If you’re holding her hands, then you’ll probably feel her squeezing your hands.

This means that you can start to press your tongue harder against her pussy. You can also gradually quicken the pace.

(If you partner is very excited, then don’t be afraid to press you head hard against her pussy. The higher the arousal level, the more force you can use. )

Don’t change anything else than the pressure and the speed – and do it gradually. Keep your tongue soft and loose, and alternate between the up and down movement, and the side to side movement.

Don’t be surprised if your partner doesn’t orgasm - that’s quite common. Oral sex isn’t that effective for giving women orgasms. Especially for women who need internal stimulation to get off.

If your girl has a responsive clit however, then it’s very likely she’ll have an orgasm.

Side note: It’s common for women to move around when they orgasm – many tend to raise their hips too. This can be a problem for your pussy eating. When I’m with a “mover”, I usually reach my arms around her thighs, and lay my hands on her stomach.

When she starts to move, I can hold her in place with my arms and hands, thus holding her still while she’s coming.

After you’re done, remember to give your girl a lot of compliments of how good her pussy tastes.

Women are very concerned about their own smell and taste, so let her know how much you enjoy eating her out. Let her know you’re addicted to her pussy.

Now she can’t wait until you’ll eat her out again.

Good luck with your pussy eating…

…and don’t forget the most important thing about pussy eating:

Enjoy it!!

-Tom

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